男人少做家务事，婚姻藏危机
路透社纽约健康消息 新的研究显示，当妻子开始埋怨丈夫在家干家务事太少，而她们的丈夫并不否认这一点时，婚姻有可能出现危机。研究者警告，就是这些看似微不足道的埋怨，常常是他们的婚姻关系较紧张的征兆。上述报告发表在二月份的《个性与社会心理学杂志》上。
研究报告的作者，美国匹兹堡的卡内基梅隆大学的玛格莉特·克拉克女士指出，不管有否在外担任全职工作，妇女仍是家务劳动及照顾孩子的主要承担者。当接受调查时，无论男性或女性从客观感觉上都认为这样不公平。如果夫妻感情好，这种不平衡似乎对夫妇无所谓。然而，当再增加压力，例如孩子的出生，家务事增多，冲突就会随之发生。研究人员指出，夫妻应该防患于未然，平时多留意解决这些家务事承担上的不平衡。只有这样，才会有一个美好的家庭。
在对181对夫妇进行的研究中，克拉克及其合作者、匹兹堡大学的南茜·K·格罗特女士发现，许多丈夫及太太都承认在家务的分配上不公平，尤其是在孩子出生的前后几个月内。妻子反映，在这个时期，婚姻生活中为小事发生的冲突增加，生活的满意度降低。当孩子长到六个月至一岁大时，许多妻子及丈夫都反映婚姻生活的满意程度减少，并且丈夫更加感到不公平。如果不开心，经常发生冲突，那将是一个危险信号。在家务劳动中无论存在何种不公平，都将导致有人(通常是妻子)过度疲劳。这时应在家务劳动负担上作一些调整。
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哪里是底线呢？克拉克认为，无论男性或女性，如果他们想要保持婚姻，避免矛盾逐步升级，就应互相体贴，关心对方的需要。
来源：《个性及社会心理学杂志》2001;80:281-293.
Complaints About Chores May Signal Marital Stress
NEW YORK (Reuters Health) - Mothers who complain that their husbands do little work around the house may find that their husbands agree with them, new study findings show. But researchers warn that these ‘minor‘ complaints are often symptomatic of deeper stressors within the marriage.
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``Women, even those working full-time, still perform the bulk of household chores and child care. And both women and men, when asked, perceive this to be unfair in an objective sense,‘‘ study author Margaret Clark of the Carnegie Mellon University in Pittsburgh told Reuters Health.
Yet, she added, this unbalance does not seem to bother couples as long as overall levels of discord in the relationship are low.
However, Clark said, once more stress is introduced--such as with the birth of a child--conflict may follow.
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``(M)embers of the couple may begin to pay more attention to these inequities and then issues of fairness may come to the fore,‘‘ she explained.
In a study of 181 couples, Clark and co-author Nancy K. Grote of the University of Pittsburgh found many husbands and wives agreeing that the distribution of housework was unfair--especially during the few months immediately preceding and following the birth of a child. Wives also reported more marital conflict and less marital satisfaction during this time period, the authors report in the February issue of the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology.
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As the child reached 6 months to one year, many wives and husbands reported decreased marital satisfaction and the husbands ``reported a further decline in perceived fairness,‘‘ Clark and Grote write.
``If distress and conflict is high, that is a signal that whatever inequities in household labor exist is causing strain on someone (most likely the wife) and some adjustments ought to be made in household work,‘‘ Clark said.
The bottom line? Men and women, according to Clark, should pay attention to their partners‘ needs and desires in the relationship if they want to keep minor conflicts from escalating into major marital strife.
SOURCE: Journal of Personality and Social Psychology 2001;80:281-293., 百拇医药
研究报告的作者，美国匹兹堡的卡内基梅隆大学的玛格莉特·克拉克女士指出，不管有否在外担任全职工作，妇女仍是家务劳动及照顾孩子的主要承担者。当接受调查时，无论男性或女性从客观感觉上都认为这样不公平。如果夫妻感情好，这种不平衡似乎对夫妇无所谓。然而，当再增加压力，例如孩子的出生，家务事增多，冲突就会随之发生。研究人员指出，夫妻应该防患于未然，平时多留意解决这些家务事承担上的不平衡。只有这样，才会有一个美好的家庭。
在对181对夫妇进行的研究中，克拉克及其合作者、匹兹堡大学的南茜·K·格罗特女士发现，许多丈夫及太太都承认在家务的分配上不公平，尤其是在孩子出生的前后几个月内。妻子反映，在这个时期，婚姻生活中为小事发生的冲突增加，生活的满意度降低。当孩子长到六个月至一岁大时，许多妻子及丈夫都反映婚姻生活的满意程度减少，并且丈夫更加感到不公平。如果不开心，经常发生冲突，那将是一个危险信号。在家务劳动中无论存在何种不公平，都将导致有人(通常是妻子)过度疲劳。这时应在家务劳动负担上作一些调整。
, 百拇医药
哪里是底线呢？克拉克认为，无论男性或女性，如果他们想要保持婚姻，避免矛盾逐步升级，就应互相体贴，关心对方的需要。
来源：《个性及社会心理学杂志》2001;80:281-293.
Complaints About Chores May Signal Marital Stress
NEW YORK (Reuters Health) - Mothers who complain that their husbands do little work around the house may find that their husbands agree with them, new study findings show. But researchers warn that these ‘minor‘ complaints are often symptomatic of deeper stressors within the marriage.
, 百拇医药
``Women, even those working full-time, still perform the bulk of household chores and child care. And both women and men, when asked, perceive this to be unfair in an objective sense,‘‘ study author Margaret Clark of the Carnegie Mellon University in Pittsburgh told Reuters Health.
Yet, she added, this unbalance does not seem to bother couples as long as overall levels of discord in the relationship are low.
However, Clark said, once more stress is introduced--such as with the birth of a child--conflict may follow.
, 百拇医药
``(M)embers of the couple may begin to pay more attention to these inequities and then issues of fairness may come to the fore,‘‘ she explained.
In a study of 181 couples, Clark and co-author Nancy K. Grote of the University of Pittsburgh found many husbands and wives agreeing that the distribution of housework was unfair--especially during the few months immediately preceding and following the birth of a child. Wives also reported more marital conflict and less marital satisfaction during this time period, the authors report in the February issue of the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology.
, 百拇医药
As the child reached 6 months to one year, many wives and husbands reported decreased marital satisfaction and the husbands ``reported a further decline in perceived fairness,‘‘ Clark and Grote write.
``If distress and conflict is high, that is a signal that whatever inequities in household labor exist is causing strain on someone (most likely the wife) and some adjustments ought to be made in household work,‘‘ Clark said.
The bottom line? Men and women, according to Clark, should pay attention to their partners‘ needs and desires in the relationship if they want to keep minor conflicts from escalating into major marital strife.
SOURCE: Journal of Personality and Social Psychology 2001;80:281-293., 百拇医药